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Post by perelana on Jun 30, 2014 13:56:24 GMT
Hello I'm perela
I don't have any friends at school and I'm lonely
what can I do?
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Post by Melaleuca on Jun 30, 2014 14:03:05 GMT
Hey
Well, sit somewhere with other people, it doesn't have to be the 'popular' table, or a crowded one, but one with at least two other people. Because the 'populars' won't matter when you're older but a true friend will be there for you forever if you're true to them. Remember, friends seldom come knocking on your door while you sit at home playing computer games. Populars aren't always going to be mean to you. They just need to know you a little better
Join an organization or club with people who have common interests. You don't necessarily need to have a lot of common interests with people in order to make friends with them. In fact, some of the most rewarding friendships are between two people who don't have much in common at all, but if you like a specific topic, try searching for just a location. It's a great way to meet new local people! Social networking sites such as Facebook, Twitter and Google+ are great way to meet new people and learn more about the people you meet. When you are chatting just say are you on Facebook? or what is your name on Twitter? A church, Masjid (mosque) or other house of worship is a great place to start since you have at least have a religious faith in common.
You can join a club, go to school, or go to church but you still won't make friends if you don't actually talk to people. By the same token, you don't have to be involved with an organization to be social, and any time you talk to someone, you have a chance at making a lasting friend. You can talk to anybody: the clerk at the video store, the person sitting next to you on the bus, or the person in front of you in the lunch line. Don't be too picky. Most conversations will be a dead-end of sorts, when you may never talk to that person again, or you just remain acquaintances--but once in a while you'll actually make a friend.
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Post by Laluka on Jun 30, 2014 14:05:04 GMT
Be confident. Many people are not very confident. They are reserved, timid and afraid to start a conversation. Make the effort and start talking no matter how uncomfortable it feels.
Be honest. Being honest helps them to make them trust you.
Don't talk about yourself all the time. Ask them questions about them and show interest in your friends and their likes.
Let the friendship unfold naturally. Don't force the friendship, because they won't be your true friend if you cannot be yourself around them.
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Post by anasabx on Jun 30, 2014 14:17:52 GMT
I think the key is at your negative thoughts and at your feelings.
Take control of your negative thoughts. With all the talking we've done about negativity, you can probably recognize which ones are negative and which ones aren't. But if you can't, take any thought you have about yourself or other people. If it's a fact, reword it. If it's assuming anything, reword it. And if it's discouraging, reword it. So "No one at work understands me," becomes "I haven't made a connection at work with anyone...yet." You'll have to be mindful and aware, but it's doable.
Avoid negative situations. It's a bad idea to drink heavily, do drugs, or spend your life in front of the television. It's a doubly bad idea to do so if you're in a bad mood or feeling particularly lonely. So avoid situations that just exacerbate the problem. You may feel better temporarily, but you'll feel worse over the long-run.
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